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  1. suze294
    suze294 at |

    Great comments Andrew

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  2. Elaine Lee
    Elaine Lee at |

    I can’t afford them either. Great post andrew

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  3. felinewyvern
    felinewyvern at |

    Well said Andrew. Succinct and to the point. So glad you are teaching your daughter by example how to be a good person.

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  4. debfirpo
    debfirpo at |

    That was great! You voiced my feelings.

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    1. andrewqgordon
      andrewqgordon at |

      Thanks, deb, and thanks for leaving a comment. 🙂

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  5. H.B.
    H.B. at |

    Wonderfully said Andrew!

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    1. andrewqgordon
      andrewqgordon at |

      Thank you, H.B. I appreciate it.

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  6. natsumihime2014
    natsumihime2014 at |

    Excellent post, Andrew.

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    1. andrewqgordon
      andrewqgordon at |

      Thanks, glad you liked it.

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  7. Nic Trudell
    Nic Trudell at |

    I disagree. You say a boycott is a form of intolerance; I say some forms of intolerance are good. I absolutely refuse to tolerate sexism, racism, homophobia, and all forms of bigotry.

    Sometimes boycotts *are* effective. Comparing the Chick-fil-A situation with the Dolce & Gabbana one doesn’t work, because they aren’t drawing the same customers to start with. An LGBT/allies boycott of Chick-fil-A was ineffective not only because it mobilized the Christian right in support of the company, but because those were a good bulk of the customers already patronizing the business to start with. Withdrawing our own (hardly massive) support wasn’t going to have much effect.

    This is different. The Christian right wasn’t out there buying D & G in the first place, nor are they likely to start. As much as they may celebrate D & G’s comments, most won’t be inclined to throw money towards two gay guys (and of those that would just in support of their comments, most can’t afford to, anyway.) A successful boycott of D & G *will* hit their bottom line because they just belittled the families of their own customers.

    From here, I suppose the argument is “but why should we boycott them and hurt their business just for speaking their minds? Don’t they have the same right to free speech as we do?” Absolutely. But free speech does not mean speech free from consequences.

    For those that feel D & G shouldn’t suffer major consequences for their speech, I ask you to consider: what about the consequences *of* that speech? They didn’t make their comments privately or in a vacuum. They made them in an interview meant to be released into the public.

    This matters. Knowingly promoting anti-LGBT-family speech in public arenas matters. As a gay dad you know why, but I’ll be specific for those who don’t.

    While 3-year-olds are still very accepting of differences amongst their classmates, that changes as they get older. The ones who have bigoted parents begin to listen to those views aired in their presence, and incorporate those thoughts into their own world views. When individuals with a public microphone use it to air the kind of vitriol D & G did, regular people use that speech to confirm and bolster prejudices they are already inclined to hold.

    Can you envision the people who heard D & G’s comments and said aloud, “See, even the gays know being gay parents is wrong.” How many said this in the presence of their kids? How many of those kids then went to school and bullied their classmate with two moms?

    I support a boycott because I support doing all we can to eradicate the willingness of those in the public eye to use that spotlight to promote hate. I support a boycott because the more those with public platforms fear the consequences of making hate speech, the less inclined they’ll be to make it. I support a boycott because hate speech *should* lead to the speakers being ostracized, so that future bigots with megaphones will think twice about making the type of comments that embolden bullies. And I support a boycott because I nanny IVF twins with two dads, and I never want them coming home from school having been made to feel less because of who they and their family are.

    In closing, I hope Dolce & Gabbana suffer a huge hit to their bottom line, and I most sincerely invite them to bite me.

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