Is Kink Always About Sex?
If you’ve read any of my books, you’ll know that I love to add a bit of kink to my books. Whether it’s puppy play, light D/s play, daddy kink, or something else, I’m often showing what kink means to characters as a way to be themselves. As my cote motto says: love has no shame.
My latest release, Healing Hand, is part of the Perfect Hands series, which is all about daddy kink in various ways. Whether it’s a younger Daddy with an older boy (Firm Hand), a sweet Daddy with a little (Gentle Hand), or a Daddy Dom with two boys (Slow Hand), this series shows multiple facets of daddy care.
Healing Hand portrays yet another way daddy kink can be expressed: in a relationship without penetrative sex. Gale, the Daddy, is demisexual, and Saxton, the little, has a sexual trauma that has caused him to dislike penetrative sex. (Note that I keep adding that word “penetrative”. That’s because hand jobs and oral sex, to name just two examples, are still sex…just not penetrative sex) Yet these two build a beautiful relationship full of sweet, tender moments and a wonderful Daddy-little dynamic.
Just no penetrative sex.
A reader messaged me when she was about halfway through the book, asking if Gale and Saxton would end up having sex because, as she put it, it wasn’t daddy kink without sex. It made me realize that too often, we equate kink with sex…and it’s not. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be.
At the very core, daddy kink, for example, is not about sex at all. It’s about a dynamic, a way of interacting with each other, a role each partner plays that fits them and provides them with the emotional satisfaction they seek. Of course sex in all variations can play a role in that…but it doesn’t have to.
For Gale and Saxton, being Daddy and little has nothing to do with sex. Gale wants to take care of Saxton, and Saxton desperately needs that. What he doesn’t need is a Daddy who’s focused only on sex…or who will at some point insist on sex being part of their relationship.
Yes, that makes this book different. Different from most of my other books, since I tend to write pretty steamy books, but also different from a lot of other MM romances. And I’m okay with that. I think it’s important, even in fiction, to show the wide variety in expressions of love…and to show that it doesn’t have to be through sex.
I’ve had a lot of messages since Healing Hand released from readers who recognized themselves in either Gale or Saxton. Grateful messages from readers who were so happy to see themselves or their experiences represented in a book.
Because when we say that love is love and that love has no shame, then we also need to allow for a love that doesn’t need sex to be whole and complete. Even if that love involves kink…
Can a broken boy and an unconventional Daddy help each other heal?
Saxton has never been able to make a Daddy stay. He wants one desperately, but they’ve all walked away. He knows exactly why: because he’s damaged. Broken. Unable to give Daddies what they want from him.
When he meets Daddy Gale, who offers to take care of him after an accident, Saxton expects the same thing to happen. But Gale is different in many ways, and he has his own wounds. He has endless patience with Saxton, and he respects Saxton’s boundaries.
But when Saxton can’t open up about the trauma that forever changed him, will Gale decide Saxton isn’t worth the trouble after all? Or will Saxton finally have a Daddy who accepts him the way he is?
Healing Hand is a sweet, low heat Daddy care MM romance with loads of hurt/comfort, age play, tender moments, and emotions that will give you all the feels.
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