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  1. Julie Bozza
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    Thank you for the interesting and thoughtful post, Kaje! (Also for the ‘Threefold’ shout-out. ♥) I was pondering these questions myself, as less than half of my queer fiction stories fit at all neatly into the traditional understanding of the Romance genre.

    I am glad that Queeromance decided on a fairly broad definition. I often don’t feel as if I really belong anywhere, not properly, as a writer or a reader – but Queeromance makes me feel there is a place for the broad range of stories I love to both read and write. Thank you for all your work in helping make it so!

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  2. 16forward
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    I loved this post. It made me think about how rigid I am in my own mind (and towards my relationship) and how fluid I am in thinking about relationships in general. Why can I be more accepting of others (that have open relationships) than I am if I am the one in the relationship? Is self confidence, self worth and self esteem more important than the love I feel for another and their needs? Or am I selfish enough to want them only for myself?

    Something to ponder deep into the night…

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  3. ameliabishop
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    I often pick up books labelled “Romance” and find they are not. To me, it is always a disappointment, no matter how well-written the story might be. It would be like a mystery fan picking up a mystery and finding no mystery at all, just a brief mention of a criminal case that has no bearing on the plot. Or a sci-fi fan picking up a sci-fi story to find it only had a few weak Star-Trek references.
    To me, Romance means something very specific. It means the plot should be primarily romantic in nature. It means that if the romance were removed, the plot would cease to function.
    Of course, there are lots of fabulous stories that center around themes of love and relationships that do not fit my narrow definition. Saying those stories do not fit into Romance is not the same as saying they are not “good” or not worth reading. It means only that they are not Romance genre stories.
    I guess the question to ask is: what functions do genre labels perform? Are they really just “exclusionary” labels, intended to limit and confine? If authors use a genre label to lure in readers, do they have any responsibility to adhere to those genre expectations?
    Probably these questions have a wide range of answers, depending on who one asks.
    It sounds like you all are thinking a lot about what kind of stories fit into this site, and I think that is great. Readers are always the winners, when that kind of thoughtfulness takes place.
    Good luck with the site. <3

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  4. http://www.queeromanceink.com
    http://www.queeromanceink.com at |

    Thanks so much for the great article, Kaje, and for the amazing help with the site. 🙂 xoxo

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  5. Cody Kennedy
    Cody Kennedy at |

    Below is the definition from Romance Writers of America (RWA) web site. Based upon the below, I’m inclined to believe there is much margin for creativity.

    http://www.rwa.org/p/cm/ld/fid=578

    Two basic elements comprise every romance novel: a central love story and an emotionally satisfying and optimistic ending.

    A Central Love Story: The main plot centers around individuals falling in love and struggling to make the relationship work. A writer can include as many subplots as he/she wants as long as the love story is the main focus of the novel.

    An Emotionally Satisfying and Optimistic Ending: In a romance, the lovers who risk and struggle for each other and their relationship are rewarded with emotional justice and unconditional love.

    Romance novels may have any tone or style, be set in any place or time, and have varying levels of sensuality—ranging from sweet to extremely hot. These settings and distinctions of plot create specific subgenres within romance fiction. Click here to better understand the subgenres within romance.

    Romance Novel Formats
    There are two formats for romance fiction:

    Series or “category” romances: books issued under a common imprint/series name that are usually numbered sequentially and released at regular intervals, usually monthly, with the same number of releases each time. These books are most commonly published by Harlequin/Silhouette.
    Single-title romances: longer romances released individually and not as part of a numbered series. Single-title romances may be released in hard cover, trade paperback, or mass-market paperback sizes.

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    From the Click here:
    http://www.rwa.org/p/cm/ld/fid=579

    Romance Subgenres

    All romances have a central love story and an emotionally satisfying ending. Beyond that, however, romance novels may have any tone or style, be set in any place or time, and have varying levels of sensuality—ranging from sweet to extremely hot. Romance fiction may be classified into various subgenres depending on setting and plot elements. These subgenres include:

    Contemporary Romance: Romance novels that are set from 1950 to the present that focus primarily on the romantic relationship
    Erotic Romance: Romance novels in which strong, often explicit, sexual interaction is an inherent part of the love story, character growth and relationship development and could not be removed without damaging the storyline. These novels may contain elements of other romance subgenres (such as paranormal, historical, etc.).

    Historical Romance: Romance novels that are set prior to 1950.
    Paranormal Romance: Romance novels in which fantasy worlds or paranormal or science fiction elements are an integral part of the plot.

    Romance with Religious or Spiritual Elements: Romance novels in which religious or spiritual beliefs are an inherent part of the love story, character growth and relationship development and could not be removed without damaging the storyline. These novels may be set in the context of any religious or spiritual belief system of any culture.

    Romantic Suspense: Romance novels in which suspense, mystery, or thriller elements constitute an integral part of the plot.

    Young Adult Romance: Romance novels in which young adult life is an integral part of the plot.

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  6. Megan Derr
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    “And then we move further afield. I recently read a wonderful book where one of the two men in the relationship needed sex in his life, and the other didn’t enjoy sex much. What worked for them was an open relationship sexually, but closed romantically. Is that a romance?”

    Thank you so fucking much for asking if my marriage is a real romance. Go to hell.

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    1. Lucy Kemnitzer
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      Since the question is about which written stories are the ones that romance readers would want to be able to find by searching a website, I think maybe we’re better off if we find that our real-life relationships don’t fit the criteria! I love your books Megan, but I hope your marriage isn’t like them. Much too exciting for real life!

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      1. Megan Derr
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        I’m not entirely clear on what you’re trying to say.

        That nobody would ever want to read about a relationship like mine? That’s patently untrue, LT3 has sales numbers on books with this premise to disprove that.

        That I shouldn’t take this post personally? I’m sorry, but that’s not possible. This entire post questioned the integrity of my very marriage. It literally asks if my romance counts as a real romance. I have the right to be upset about that. It never should have been a question.

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        1. Lucy Kemnitzer
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          Oh, neither of those really. I mean that when we’re talking about what books we want to read we’re not talking about what lives are legitimate to live.

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  7. Megan Derr
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    “One of the things I’ve been doing this past month is helping get the Queeromance Ink book-link site up and running. And in the process, we stumbled across an old question. When is a book really “Romance” and when isn’t it?”

    That really isn’t a hard question. The definition of a genre romance has long been stated, and the RWA site lays it out rather nicely:

    A Central Love Story: The main plot centers around individuals falling in love and struggling to make the relationship work. A writer can include as many subplots as he/she wants as long as the love story is the main focus of the novel.

    An Emotionally Satisfying and Optimistic Ending: In a romance, the lovers who risk and struggle for each other and their relationship are rewarded with emotional justice and unconditional love.

    Romance novels may have any tone or style, be set in any place or time, and have varying levels of sensuality—ranging from sweet to extremely hot. These settings and distinctions of plot create specific subgenres within romance fiction.

    “This came up in two ways. One was in deciding which books actually belong on a site labeled “Queer Romance?” We want readers to find the stories they’ll love, without being lost in unrelated books. That means gate-keeping.”

    Not really, no. Gate-keeping is a negative term, usually with hypocrisy implied (like the way so many gay and lesbian people say that bisexual, asexuals, and trans people don’t belong in the queer community).

    What you’re doing is curating, which all sites are permitted to do.

    When will it be necessary to say “that book is outside the purview of this site?”

    I would say when the book does not contain queer people, and/or violates the above definition.

    “The other was in the discussion of custom fields, to help readers with searches. Scott’s beta testers said they wanted to be able to search for “HEA- Happy Ever After” or “HFN – Happy For Now” or “Bittersweet” or “Cliffhanger” endings. (Hidden behind a spoiler tag, for those who don’t want to know.) Which raised the question – if a book is bittersweet, is it really a romance? Does it belong on the site?”

    Technically speaking, no, bittersweet books do not belong on the site. It’s queer romance ink, and bittersweet and sad endings fall under the definition of love stories, not romance. That being said, I think there’s room for allowance because it is supposed to be an indexing site and there is a significant overlap between those who enjoy romance and love stories, and many authors do write both so it makes more sense to go ahead and include those books. Since everything is being so thoroughly tagged, it shouldn’t do any harm.

    As to cheating, that boils down to personal preference. I don’t like it, some love, others don’t care. But disallowing cheating would be like disallowing misunderstanding fics, which doesn’t make any sense. So I think this question is a moot point.

    “We have books where the romance is not M/M but M/M/M. Sometimes that ends in a happy and solid relationship (like Julie Bozza’s A Threefold Cord.) Sometimes the power structure in the three-way relationship is not fully balanced, via BDSM (like Room at the Top by Jane Davitt) or in a poly relationship where the three men have different emotional and romantic needs (like Santa Baby by Heidi Cullinan.) We have books where one of the three guys is disembodied (like Bone Rider by J. Fally or SPECTR by Jordan L. Hawk.) In all of those, the ending is happy and settled into a romantic relationship, but it’s not traditional.”

    Okay, this strongly implies that people who do actively live these relationships maybe don’t count. That this even has to be asked smacks of treating polyamory like a trop rather than a real, actual way people live in love. That you have to ask ‘does this belong’ is frankly upsetting. It shouldn’t be a question. Love is love, it doesn’t matter if it’s MM, MFM, MMM, FFM, vanilla, BDSM, etc.

    “And then we move further afield. I recently read a wonderful book where one of the two men in the relationship needed sex in his life, and the other didn’t enjoy sex much. What worked for them was an open relationship sexually, but closed romantically. Is that a romance?”

    YES. Yes it is. I am asexual. My wife is bisexual. If she ever wanted to seek sex somewhere else, she can. That is our arrangement. Tht doesn’t make our marriage not a romance. Again, you are treating things like poly, BDSM, asexuality, etc. as TROPES rather than REAL THINGS PEOPLE ARE AND DO.

    Are they romance? Shouldn’t even be a question, and it’s tipping into acephobia, etc that you even have to ask.

    I seriously am so upset right now. I’m not a fucking trope. Including me in queer romance shouldn’t be something anyone hesitates or dithering over. Thank you so much for reminding me that the queer community doesn’t think I belong, and my feelings for my wife aren’t considered real because I’m not fucking her.

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  8. Lee Rowan
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    I think LGBTQ(etc) romance has less rigid definitions of romance because we don’t have hundreds of years of being told what our expectations should be the way het couples do. But that doesn’t keep some readers from insisting on their own favorite formula. I *prefer* HEA or HFN but I’ve also lived long enough to know that sometimes a happy ending means getting out of a bad relationship – maybe with a better partner in sight, maybe not. Is that romance? Well… how many unsuccessful romances does anyone go through before finally finding something that works? “After all, my erstwhile dear/my no longer cherished/Need we say it was not love/just because it perished?” (Millay)

    As long as there’s reasonable labeling so those who don’t want to read outside their favorite scenario can avoid stories they don’t like, I think broadening the definition is a good thing. I’m monogamous as hell (and fortunately so is my wife) but one of the things reading does is broaden one’s views without necessarily living out the experiences.

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  9. rhodrymavelyne
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    ‘Tokyo Babylon’ is a manga series many a yaoi, shounen ai, and boys’ love reader consider a classic, but technically it’s none of those things. A beautiful boy with strong spiritual powers is wooed by an older man, falls in love with him, only to realize he’s a dark practitioner whom marked him as prey as a child. It’s an ongoing question fans have wrestled with. Did Seishirou truly love Subaru? Or was he only stalking him? The danger, the mystery, the uncertainty, and Subaru’s broken heart have resonated with many fans. There is no happy ending as often there isn’t in several of CLAMP’s series. Readers have speculated, imagined, and given them a thousand happy endings, or put them together in ways they never ended up in the canon. The romance is there, but it’s never quite a romance. It remains a classic, though.

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  10. Michele
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    I absolutely love* how this post supposedly about *all* queer romance only gives lip service to anything other than cis, white, able bodied mm romance. Good job.

    * I do not love it, it is in fact the Worst.

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