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  1. Witchy
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    I’m lucky enough to have that kind of SO. Without him I would have quit writing or drawing or doing anything artistic long time ago. He enabled me to quit my job and pursue my creative endeavors. And he keeps reminding me that what I do is a full time job even if I’m not getting paid for it just yet. He sees the big picture, the light at the end of the tunnel, when all I can see is darkness all around me. He keeps reminding me that what I do has meaning, especially when I feel like no matter what I write or draw is utter nonsense and I just want to delete it or throw it in the trash. He has been there for me through the ups and downs, and sometimes he has to smack some sense into me (not literally of course) to get me back on track. Without him, I wouldn’t be where or who I am today.

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    1. AF Henley
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      Absolutely beautiful! Your SO sounds awesome. 😀

      Thank you so much for reading and sharing! <3

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  2. Jack Frost
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    Do hope to get there one day. But you’re absolutely right, I’ve read many such stories and I love hearing how on the days they almost gave up they were supported and continued on anyway.

    Of course, as you pointed out, it works both ways. As an SO you should also be willing to give up those 15 extra minutes to help your SO out on something they’re passionate about. But that’s the beauty of a relationship. It’s give and take. And the support you can offer by taking time away from your passion to help them with theirs is amazingly powerful to show that devotion and respect.

    Beautiful article, wonderfully explained. Was happy to read.

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    1. AF Henley
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      Amen, Jack. It’s definitely a two-way street. And those people that find a balance like that really are beautiful. 😀

      Glad you enjoyed the post. And, as always, thank you very much for sharing and reading. <3

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  3. Lavender Wynter
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    Got right to the heart of it, you did. Good job well done!

    I write because of my Bitworks. That’s just the fact of it. When I was stuck in China for that one year after my graduation, I didn’t write. Didn’t read either. That part of me was simply viewed as unnecessary and a waste of time. I can get to it “when the other important things have been fulfilled.”

    Bitworks had encouraged me since the beginning. He was also the only one I ever shared my writing with (writing for class not included). He didn’t make me feel stupid for enjoying a hobby that satisfied nobody else but me alone. He’ll just smile at me and say “I love seeing that.”

    “That” is the happiness he claims radiates from me when I’ve been allowed to write and enjoy it, no matter how much hair pulling was involved. XD

    They say size doesn’t matter, right? Certainly applies here. The smallest things can be the most important ones.

    Thank you very much for posting! <3

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    1. AF Henley
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      Having that kind of support is huge. I’ve seen so many posts with your Bitworks being praised, so I have no doubt that his support (and yours right back) is a perfect compliment. Congratulations on that, and thank you very much for sharing it with us! <3

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  4. drawboy
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    You so nailed it, buddy! 🙂 Especially that you are writing about expectations and not just wishes. This underlines how important her/his creative endeavors are to oneself.

    And it makes it so perfectly clear: Whoever decides to be with an author is with the whole person. Outsiders (in this case people who have no contact with a creative person at all) may not understand this but if one chose to be with someone who is writing, one is with the whole person and not just with certain aspects of hers/his life. One can not and should not (!) keep this important part out. They are made to be like this. They breathe and think as an author. That is their heartbeat. Maybe not every single moment of their life and not always on the outside. But deep within this is what they always are.

    This should be embraced and cherished and supported wholeheartedly. Not for what one might get back ( although the rewards are mind-blowing, beautiful, and so enriching one’s own soul) but because of showing them how important it is what they do, that the importance is accepted and supported.

    And that one wishes nothing more to help them making this part of their life and their life as a whole worthwhile. 🙂

    <3

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    1. AF Henley
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      Thank you so much, my friend! *highfives hard*

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