17 Responses

  1. Helena Stone
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    I have lots of thoughts and am not inclined to share them here 🙂 Except for this one. I fail to understand why anybody feels the need to tell anyone else how to conduct their relationship(s). You can’t judge a relationship unless you live it.

  2. AnnAlaskan
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    What an Excellent synopsis of a much misunderstood & mostly maligned relationship possibly! Who has the right to even question how others live & Love? I am always so thankful for books that are avaliable that illuminate a different style from “my” normal. I love to learn about others. People are fascinating and so divergent! But .. no one has the right to tell or judge another person .. NO ONE! Please keep on giving us fascinating stories that educate us too! Thank you T. J. WRITE ON!!

  3. lisa
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    Thank you for a very thoughtful and thought provoking post. As long as all involved are of legal age, able to be consenting, and no one is being abused then their relationship(s) are no business of mine. People should be glad for others’ happiness.

  4. Brandon Witt
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    Love your post. My relationship is open. It’s also the strongest, most honest, loving, and longest relationship I’ve ever had.

  5. H.B.
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    Thank you for the interesting post. I don’t like it for myself and don’t think I could ever really do it. However, that being said I don’t really care how others conduct their relationship. Frankly if neither party is hurting anyone and they are both happy about the arrangement, who am I to judge?

  6. Lyn
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    If it works, who are we to question? In fact, who are we to question anyone on their relationship?
    I have been married, monogamously, for 41 years. Our relationship is not in any way vanilla, which we have never broadcas, because it is personal and our business alone.
    Same with this.
    Not my business. Not my place to comment on other people’s lives

  7. ScottyCade
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    I very much appreciate your point of view and agree mostly. Neither is right or wrong. Its what works for the two people involved. My husband and I have been in a monogamous relationship for over twenty years. Not because its right or wrong or because many in society frown upon open relationships, but because we choose to be monogamous. When we’re in need emotionally or physically we turn to each other. That’s what works for us. But we have friends that have open relationships and they are happy, healthy and thriving because that’s what works for them. And who are we to judge? But here’s where we disagree slightly. My husband and I have been the victims of reverse discrimination and snubbed by couples in open relationships because they think we feel morally superior, which couldn’t be farther from the truth. And by some in this very genre. As a writer, I write about what I know and what appeals to me in a romance. I write about monogamous relationships because that’s what I know and its what I want in a story. That in no way means I look down on any other type of relationship. I have always said “to each his own,” and I mean that. No one should judge the way anyone else lives.

  8. jaimesamms
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    This a great, thoughtful post about a topic I find fascinating. Thanks, TJ. I never walk away from your posts without something to think about.

  9. Elin Gregory
    Elin Gregory at |

    Great post, TJ, very thought provoking both on a personal and a fictional level.

  10. 16forward
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    Thanks to everyone for sharing their thoughts. Since all of these aspects of love are represented in the genre I just keep reading to further my knowledge and hope others do the same. My hope is that someday ‘gay’ romance will be melded into the romance umbrella, etc. It’s as if, since it’s two of the same gender, it must be qualified.


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