Love Bytes is delighted to introduce you to the next author on our Featured blog tour: Miss Kiki Burrelli.
Kiki joins us today and talks about introversion, she also shares some info on her latest release and brought with her a fantastic giveaway.
Welcome Kiki 🙂
Introversion and Anxiety
I once gave a person a side hug.
I then spent the next 45 hours going over every detail of that hug. Did I hug for too long? Was the hug too short? Did I put deodorant on that day? Did the person expect a full-on hug? Did that person even want a hug? Did I force my hug on them? Are they going around telling everyone what horrible hug etiquette I have? Because when you combine introversion with anxiety you get a special mix of worrying endlessly over moments that you don’t often put yourself in.
One of the reasons why writing is the profession for me is its virtual nature. I am not saying I don’t stress over virtual interactions. Because I do. But, for the most part, there is a buffer there. I can take extra time and think about how I want to reply to a question. I could wait until the next day if an answer eludes me. Try doing that face to face.
My best friend in the entire world is a good rewrite. Sure, right now this sex scene might read like an awful instruction manual: Insert slot A into Hole B. Moan counterclockwise for thirty seconds. Climax. But after a rewrite, that scene might actually start to make sense (No promises). I love a rewrite though because it gives me a chance to relive a moment, to make the moment better. Rewrites let me think about that side hug and decide exactly what I’ll say before, during and after as well as how long I will hug and the amount of hugging force that is most appropriate.
While I understand there isn’t a quick fix to my anxiety, that my introversion can be managed but not eradicated, I thought it would be a good idea to write a list of Do’s and Don’ts when approaching a Kiki in the wild, or another introverted, anxious person like her.
Don’t : Charge a Kiki spotted in the wild like an overworked lion sprinting towards happy hour on a Friday.
Do: Approach a wild Kiki like a cautious gazelle that just smelled a lion sprinting towards happy hour.
Don’t: Try to kiss, lick or bite a Kiki.
Do: Ask a Kiki if you can give her a hug (preface your request with your low hug expectations)
Don’t: Exclude a Kiki because she is always lurking at the outermost corner of the room, hiding behind the nearest furniture.
Do: Invite her if you think she’ll have fun (but don’t be upset if she leaves early)
Don’t: Stare strangely or take it personally if a wild Kiki suddenly stops speaking mid-conversation.
Do: Begin singing to fill the moment so it won’t become awkward.
In case you were wondering, I really enjoy K-pop, so you could consider practicing a few of those tunes 😊
But, if you forget everything on this list, remember one thing: I am so excited to be attending my first GRL! Please come and see me, Kiki Burrelli at some point during the retreat and if you want to read some of my books beforehand, you can do that too! Right here
If you can’t wait and want to become best friends right now, visit my Facebook page!
I cannot wait to see you all soon!
Wolf shifter Glenn is on a mission to deliver an injured animal to a friend of a friend who lives in some sleepy mountain town. He doesn’t expect his inner animal to howl with recognition the moment he meets Brady. He’s his mate, no question about it. But something strange is going on and Glenn thinks the answers may be found in Parker, the mysterious nomad who recently began renting Brady’s spare room.
Parker’s pack is dying and it is up to him to save the coyote shifters by spying on the town of Riverside and preparing his family for a siege. There is only one problem, he’s falling hard and fast for not just the human veterinarian he is living with but the wolf shifter as well.
Their desire for each other cannot be ignored but as the relationship grows the outside world presses in. While pack duties and familial obligations threaten to tear them apart, can they overcome discrimination and find their happy ending?
Kiki Burrelli lives in the Pacific Northwest with the bears and raccoons. She dreams of owning a pack of goats that she can cuddle and dress in form-fitting sweaters. Kiki loves writing and reading and is always chasing that next character that will make her insides shiver.