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  1. nicki442
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    The biggest basket of lemons that life threw at me was tossed in October 2000. In that one month, I lost my dog (adopted by another family), my husband, my house (divorce proceedings), and my Mom (taken too soon by cancer). After both physical and mental illnesses following that, and time spent soul-searching, I made my lemonade by quitting my migraine-inducing, cubicle-dwelling job and used life insurance money to return to school so I could actually enjoy my work for a change. It meant going from “white-collar” to blue, and less pay, but overtime made up for that and I didn’t mind those hours. I became happy again. Of course, it didn’t last long, more lemons have been dumped upon me since, and Murphy’s Law rules my life, but there’s hope, because I’ve made lemonade before, and I’m confident that I can do it again. Best wishes to you!

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    1. Vicktor Alexander
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      That’s awesome Nicki! Keep up that positive attitude! And keep making lemonade! Send your email addy and book preference to: vicktoralexander@vicktoralexander.com

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  2. susana
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    Hi! My lemonade moment wasn’t that hard…. Some fifteen years ago I found myself suddenly unemployed (the door of the school where I taught literally closed its doors one morning… without notifying students or employees…). So it was sudden, I had no money saved, I lived with my boyfriend and found out almost at the same time of the job crisis that he was having an affair with somebody much younger…. I was really down, no job, no flat, not many options. But I decided to tough it out. I moved with some friends who were nice enough to shelter me, and studied like crazy for six months to pass the test to become a civil servant… And I did.
    I’m happy now. I’ve moved to a new place, have a nice job and live with a cat I rescued from a shelter. My lemonade could be sweeter, but I like it the way it is 😉

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    1. Vicktor Alexander
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      Way to make lemonade Susana! Keep up that positive attitude! And keep making lemonade! That slimey bastard didn’t deserve you and neither did that job. Good on you for making those bitter lemons into a sweet beverage. Send your email addy and book preference to: vicktoralexander@vicktoralexander.com

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  3. 16forward
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    Personally I have escaped the lemons…they’ve all been handed to my daughter. 9 years ago she was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease, after a surgery (that was botched) her abusive husband died. She’s had 2 more surgeries, lost her job due to health concerns (physical deterioration, anxiety, depression), lost her home, the woman (who took her dog when she moved in with us) turned him over to the dog pound and they put him down. She is working her way through state agencies in the hope of obtaining disability funds, unemployment and/or medical assistance. She is an inspiration as I see her struggle each day.

    Good luck to you, Vicktor, Nicki and Susana. I hope each of you have a strong support group.

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    1. Vicktor Alexander
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      Oh wow, 16forward, your daughter IS an inspiration. Degenerative disc disease is a bitch, and domestic violence is horrendous. That’s awesome that you support her as she continues to keep her positive attitude and refuses to stop making lemonade out of life’s lemons! Send your email addy and book preference to: vicktoralexander@vicktoralexander.com

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  4. Katy Beth McKee
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    One big moment was the still birth of my son at 39 weeks gestation. This was one month after losing my father. All I wanted even if I never knew that something good could come from my pain. I actually got to hear either directly or related to me that there were several women who attended the funeral that said they had also lost a child but had never been allowed to have closure. The old way was to just take care of things while mom was still in the hospital and then never really spoken about again. These women said that they were able to finally say goodbye to their own little ones. Then 6 weeks later I was able to attend the birth my friend’s baby. I hated people saying they could never do that because well you never know what you can handle until you have to handle.

    PS I worked in a nursing home way back in 1984-1985. And things were bad then with staff overworked and under paid. Really sad that all these years later nothing has really changed.

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    1. Vicktor Alexander
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      Katy Beth, I am sending you the biggest, hardest, most loving virtual hug right now. The loss of a child is so hard as is the loss of a parent. I have experienced the first and my best girl friend has experienced them both. It is something that has the ability to rip you apart, but the fact that you were able to attend the birth of your friend’s baby shows the strength of your soul and spirit. And also the resilience and internal durability after loss that every woman has within her. Thank you for sharing that with me, with us.
      Keep on being an inspiration. And keep making lemonade! Send your email addy and book preference to: vicktoralexander@vicktoralexander.com

      P.S. I was very saddened by the state of affairs as well. Especially when I found out I was at one of the BETTER Consulate facilities. We have to do better.

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  5. Toni
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    I lost my job twice in the space of a year and ended up having to move in with family for a while. It wasn’t the best situation but I’m grateful I had them and somewhere to go. In some ways I’m still working out what comes next but it’s shown me that it’s time for a career change and I’m enjoying that even if I’m making less now. I’m hopeful things will work out better.

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  6. Vicktor Alexander
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    That’s awesome way to look at things Toni. I’m sorry that you lost your job, that sux big time, but you may just be being put into position for the perfect career for you that brings you fulfillment and joy or brings something (or someone) into your life that you need to take you into the next phase or next chapter of your life. You never know. Keep up that positive attitude! And keep making lemonade! Send your email addy and book preference to: vicktoralexander@vicktoralexander.com

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